Welcome to the message board. I hope you use it to express your ideas, within reason. Your comments may be posted to support a dialogue. This should be a serious format and also fun way to get acquainted. I take the liberty of screening all messages before they appear on the website, but then any Colonel would do the same.
- Grethe

Start a new thread Search Messages See All Threads

Select a Thread to View

No Comment
Submitted: 2007-05-10 04:13:16.000 (post #: 1481)

So sorry to hear about your son's passing. My toughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Reply to this message

Re: No Comment
Cherie Long-Sutter
Submitted: 2007-05-25 19:39:37.000 (post #: 1598)

Iam so sorry to hear that this happened . May God Hold you in the arms that comfort all . My Now retired and they cant touch her spouse and i will say prayers of comfort for you and yours. Cherie Long-Sutter
Reply to this message

our condolences
Submitted: 2007-06-06 04:28:23.000 (post #: 1667)

I am sorry to hear about your son's passing at such an early age. God Bless you and your family. You are in our thoughts and prayers always.
Reply to this message

Thank You
Submitted: 2007-06-07 02:48:31.000 (post #: 1735)

Thank you for being who you are. I was doing some research on gays in the military and repeatedly came across your name and courageous story. People like you give us all hope in the goodness and decency of mankind. Thank you.
Reply to this message

So sorry
Tarlach O Neill
Submitted: 2007-07-11 09:57:28.000 (post #: 2206)

I was watching the movie about your case on British TV today 12/7/07 and came to check out what had happened to you. You are an inspiration to lots of lesbians and gays who just won't put up with being second class or ever less class citizens. I was really sorry to learn that your son had died so tragically. "May the Lord keep your son in his hands until you meet again". God Bless and keep you and your loved ones always.
Reply to this message

No Comment
Submitted: 2007-07-23 01:11:46.000 (post #: 2208)

Thank you for your kind thoughts. It has been a difficult few months just getting used to the fact that Andy is dead. His memory is so vivid that I feel like I am in a dream/nightmare.
Reply to this message

Re: No Comment
Cameron K
Submitted: 2007-07-31 20:43:20.000 (post #: 2210)

My deepest sympathies to you. No parent should have to live through the death of a child, it's a loss that is more deeply a part of you than that of a spouse or lover. It's the loss of part of yourself as well. Grief takes its time and never is entirely absent from you, it just becomes more distant over time. Remember when you are ready, celebrate his life. You're a blessed woman to have the strong familial bonds you have to get you through this difficult time, and people who are inspired by your legacy to put you in their thoughts and prayers, and see you as a hero, not only for your country, but for the LGBT community as well.
Reply to this message

Submitted: 2007-07-31 21:30:43.000 (post #: 2211)

I watch the movie about your life everytime it comes on tv, as it did again today on Encore. The strength and courage it took to stand up against the Military, whom you respected and served for so many faithful years..is nothing compared to the strength and courage it takes to grieve the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you in this time of mourning and adjustment. You were courageous in your Military life, and equally as courageous in your now Civilian life. My God ease the pain your family is now suffering, and give you continued strength in your life. The world needs more true heroes like you. Thanks for sharing your life with so many. Sal
Reply to this message

Re: Re: No Comment
Submitted: 2007-08-02 21:52:56.000 (post #: 2212)

Thank you for your kind thoughts of support at the death of Andy. It has been a difficult time because we are family in the greatest sense of the word. His memory is everywhere and we mourn as others mourn the loss of a child. I have such profound empathy and sympathy for those who have lost children in Iraq. We are much to cavalier about loss of the children of others. It is amazing what the personal experience does to understanding the grief of others. Undescribable.
Reply to this message

Belated condolences
Pat (from Down Under)
Submitted: 2009-07-01 00:14:06.000 (post #: 2297)

Please accept my belated condolences, Grethe, on the terrible and very tragic loss of your son, Andy. I learned of your loss only a few minutes ago when visiting your website for possible information on an unrelated matter, and gasped with horror when I read about Andy. Little more to say other than that you have surely faced enough extremely difficult and very public challenges in life - without the addition of something like this! I hope you have all experienced some healing with the passage of time and I wish you well for the future.
Reply to this message


Submitted: 2010-02-12 17:08:57.000 (post #: 2355)

I watched your movie again and could not help but remember that the anniversary of Andy's accident is quickly coming upon on. My brother and I grew up with Andy and Tom, and my borther lived with Andy while they went to school in Arizona. My freshman year of highschool Andy gave me a nickman that I despised and it of courses took on a life of its own and soon none of my brothers friends could recall my actual name. Andy continued to call me this knowing that is drove me nuts up until the last time a saw him a few months before his death. I would give give anything to hear him calling it out now. I hope that as these few years have passed that you smile often when thinking of him as all of us who grew up with him and around him surely do.
Reply to this message

Re: No Comment
Submitted: 2010-04-26 20:33:49.000 (post #: 2363)

I just finished your book Serving in Silence and watched your film again. I am so very thankful to you as a model for dignity while enduring the disrespect no one should have to endure--being singled out of the military for being oneself and being truthful about it. I admire your strength of character and determination in seeing this issue through. I also wish you condolences for the loss of your beloved son Andy as I am just learning of his passing from your website. You are an amazing woman that nothing stops you from fighting for the cause of gays and lesbians in the military. God bless you!
Reply to this message

Post a New Message To This Thread