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just seen film
margaret
Submitted: 2009-09-29 14:45:45.000 (post #: 2314)

well done to you it need some one of your rank to do that to stand up for others my brother was gay and died but he keept it mainly a secretfrom people take care ahnbk
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Delyth
Submitted: 2009-09-30 08:47:25.000 (post #: 2317)

Hi Grethe, I too have just watched the movie, although not for the first time. I am a gay mother of two grown-up children, and 10 years ago, one of the hardest things I had to do in comming to terms with being gay, was tell them. Thankfully I had a similar reaction to you, they had already worked it out for themselves. I wish you, Diane and all your family peace and happiness for the future, and thank you for sharing your story with us.
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Re: just seen film
Kay
Submitted: 2009-09-30 15:30:20.000 (post #: 2318)

Hi, I watched the film yesterday, and thought it was very moving and heartbreaking.You stood up for what is rightly yours,and what you are entitled to.I wish more people would do the same. My partner is living with me in th UK, because we cannot be together in the USA. She is a veteran and cannot live in her birthplace with the partner of her choice. She has been exiled in away for being who she is, we are thankful that th UK lets us live here together with every right of a married couple. Thanks for standing up for the little guy Grethe, and for giving a voice to those who can barely speak. All the best to you and the family from across the pond.
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film
Kerry
Submitted: 2009-10-01 15:50:06.000 (post #: 2320)

I recently watched your film, and found it inspiring and interesting. Im sorry that not a lot has changed over the years.Still predujice, and people not being able to live with the partner of their dreams.We have come along way in society and still have an enormous road to travel. My partner is a veteran, we are a bi national couple living in the UK. We can not live in my partners Country, the USA, because they dont recognise our Civil Partnership, so therefore, we live in the UK. We are grateful that we can be together, but also sad that my partner is alienated from her native country and children. You opened people eyes with your story, the film was moving,and inspiring. I commend you on your courage and for sharing with the world your story. Many thanks.
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Grethe
Submitted: 2009-10-07 18:50:14.000 (post #: 2322)

thank you for telling your experience. I do believe our internalized homophobia (not unfounded) keeps us expecting the worst and sometimes it does not happen. We continue to work toward social justice in all aspects of our lives including the military's don't ask don't tell.
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Re: Re: just seen film
Grethe
Submitted: 2009-10-07 18:52:40.000 (post #: 2323)

indeed it is obscene to not live in the country you served and protected others so they could have social justice. Yet things have changed over the past 15 years because people stood up and became vulnerable and told their stories. We make a change one step at a time and one day you and your partner may be able to live in the country of her birth.
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Re: film
Grethe
Submitted: 2009-10-07 18:55:35.000 (post #: 2324)

we are working on legislation in so many areas in the US and in Congress for social justice for all. It takes time yet we are making a difference one state at a time. Currently we hope to uphold the Domestic Partnership in Washington state. It is on the ballot for next month. And the march is for equality and overturning the Don't Ask, Don't Tell. Changing a country takes a long time. Thank you for caring.
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Just Saw the Film and the similarities.
Scientist
Submitted: 2009-10-09 18:34:42.000 (post #: 2327)

The similarities with the way that people seem to hate immigrants, let alone an immigrant who is bisexual like myself, were very apparent in the film. I relate, and the fact that I can say I relate not because I am homosexual or because I am bisexual, but because I am a Mexican immigrant (but basically grew up here), that should mean something. I am glad there are people who are proud of being American, I feel very much both, American and Mexican, but above all, I feel human. And that is the point of your film I think, on of them, everyone is who they are, but they are all still human and we should acknowledge that.
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Just re-watched the film
Jan McNulty
Submitted: 2009-10-29 13:28:57.000 (post #: 2332)

Just purchased the DVD and rewatched the film - I had seen it on tv when it was originally aired and hadn't seen it since. It is just as powerful today as it was then, and unfortunately as relevent. That is to say that it is a national shame that so little has changed since 1994, and that our military "leaders" and Congress still use the same old stale arguments against openly gay members serving in the military - you know, those same old arguments that were used in the attempts to keep blacks and women from serving. Having served in the U.S. Navy on active duty from 1974-1983 as both a woman and a lesbian, I am personally disgusted that "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" still exists and that being gay in the military is still even an issue. Still, thank you for standing up - you had more than most to lose by speaking out when you did. It made my heart feel better when I found out that you won your lawsuit and were reinstated and allowed to retire a few years later.
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Re: Just re-watched the film
Grethe
Submitted: 2009-11-09 02:15:18.000 (post #: 2335)

For me the only way I will feel vindicated for my efforts will be the overturning of the Don't Ask Don't Tell. Having lost over 13,000 from the military to this law is obnoxious. The work of the Servicemember's Legal Defense Network through lobbying and support for gay servicemembers I do believe will make the ultimate difference. Thank you for your service under difficult circumstances.
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Tanyamarie Wilton
Submitted: 2010-04-12 13:53:34.000 (post #: 2360)

oh my god, i just watched your film and i cant believe how badly you were treated and wat you went thru just to be able to be yourselve.. i take my hat off too you and think you are fantastic.. insperation to everyone who has to justifie who they are.. best wishes to you..xx
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8: The Mormon Proposition
Diane
Submitted: 2010-08-11 17:05:46.000 (post #: 2365)

Hi Grethe, I teach in Utah (university level), and I was delighted to see your Mormon children supporting you. This summer, a friend and I are watching her Netflix films, and I saw 8: The Mormon Proposition right before we watched my friend's copy of Serving in Silence. The latter film, plus my experiences especially with Freshmen comp students in classes of predominantly Mormon students, made your own children seem untypical. Of course, Utah mormons are, I've been told, much more narrow than other members of their church. But I am most pleased that there exist Mormon young people who can think for themselves even while considering themselves faithful members of their churches.
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