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Friends of gays/lesbians remember
Submitted: 2012-10-12 23:47:35.000 (post #: 2422)

In 1988 I joined the Canadian Forces and met one of the most wonderful people. I did, and still do, look up to her as an older sister and we have maintained contact since our basic training together. At this time we both were enrolled as experiments in the Canadian Forces Combat Related Employment for Women (CREW) Trials for infantry training. While we battled the training and the trainers she never gave up and showed more heart than most I've ever met to this day. After this we moved on to other training and, at this time, it was found out through coersion that she was a lesbian. As an 18 year old simpleton from a small town I had no idea she was a lesbian but I will NEVER forget the day she told me. It occurred after she had been interviewed for numerous hours where the facts were finally forced from her through lies and coersion. She told me that, after the interview was over, she walked back to the barracks and, as a bus passed her, she considered walking in front of it. She told me that I didn't have to be her friend any longer if I didn't want to. She suffered for many years with a freeze on her courses and promotions until members of the CF finally won the right, as you did in the USA more recently, to serve without prejudice. She remains one of my very best friends to this day. It is thanks to pioneers like you and her that people have the freedom that they have today.
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Re: Friends of gays/lesbians remember
Submitted: 2013-04-24 10:56:05.000 (post #: 2431)

It was hard enough being there as a female without being gay. I remember those days well and will continually try to forget them. I am from a small town and the military is the first time I have ever met anyone who was gay. I am grateful for the fact that I didn't continue to lead a sheltered life and wish her and you both the best. Kudos to you for sticking by your friend during those rough periods.
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Re: Re: Friends of gays/lesbians remember
Submitted: 2013-05-28 09:54:46.000 (post #: 2433)

hopefully with the reprieve of don't ask, don't tell joining the military and living your truth with validate every military service member. For those who served and were disregarded it is important to stark proudly with dignity to know you are vindicated. And if discharged under less than honorable or the DD214 reflects anything which dishonors your service you should seek an upgrade of your discharge by contacting OutServe-SLDN.
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